(And no, I’m not talking about sex here.) You can have someone’s physical presence there with you and their heart can still be light years away. You can catch someone’s body and still not capture their heart. I’ve learned this firsthand, the hard way.
Even if you catch him, you won’t really ever HAVE him. But as long as you’re caught up in the drama of an on-again, off-again endless pursuit, you literally have blinders to all the amazing things already staring you right in the face. When you stop chasing the things that aren’t for you, you give the things that ARE a chance to catch up to you. You are missing out on the things and people and relationships that are meant for you by wasting all your time and energy and emotions on the things that are not. He wouldn’t keep playing games with your heart or keep you hanging around as his backup plan. Why? Because a man of character would stop dodging and evading and being shady and would sit down with you face-to-face to tell you honestly that he doesn’t want to be with you. A man who wants to be with a woman will always be running TOWARD her, not away from her. If you have to chase him, ladies, here’s the cold, hard truth: He doesn’t want to be caught. And your dignity and self-esteem are never worth surrendering, for anyone or anything. It’s impossible to feel good about yourself if you’re willing to trade in your dignity for a pair of running shoes in order to chase after any man. It’s humiliating, exhausting, and downright bad for your self-esteem. Guaranteed you will be rejected but then you have to turn up at that volunteer place and work with him anyway.ĭon't listen to these silly birds telling you to take your shot - you will fail.įive Reasons Why You Should Never Chase a Guy - The Single Woman - Single is the New Fabulous! I don't want to make a move and end up looking like boo boo the fool. He doesn't know I like him, I don't know how he feels about me either (we are both introverts that have trouble with effectively communicating), I don't have his number or anything( basically I'm lusting from afar). I generally don't date black guys as the type of black guys I like always have a preference for girls of other races which is why I'm questioning this guy. However, I have a feeling he strongly prefers white/asian/hispanic girls. From the little we have spoken, I've gathered that we have some similarities, and actually share the same birthday and year (not sure of the importance for the fonts into astrology). We met by chance, and I've been smitten since. He's smart, in med school, from a good family, went to ivy league undergrad, clean cut.etc you get the picture. I am really into this guy that checks off most of my boxes. After all relationships are all about compromise and communication.ĭon't you want someone who is crazy about you and not just half ass want to be with you? As a woman always keep your options open and don't put all your eggs in one basket unless you're happily married.Īlright LSA, I need your wisdom. Think of all the times we all foolishly wasted thinking about a man that wasn't all that! It's all about perception and if you give him a nudge and he doesn't reciprocate and come after you then don't waste your time in unrequited love and look elsewhere. You need to be asking if he is a good match for you! This type of emotional independence and solvency will not only benefit you most but attract the guy that is best suited for you. The biggest thing is not to feel anxiety about what he wants and men can sense when a woman is not a challenge. Being a black woman is just a part of your heritage but you are still your unique you and different from everyone else. What makes you think that he thinks that he isn't attracted to black women? You can't stereotype him to other men you have seen. To him the woman and everything she does is different. 
When a man wants to be with a woman it is more than physical attraction which fades without emotional attraction. We usually break our so called preference for the one we fall hard for and least expect anyway lol.
OP if there is a preference it is just the majority of type a person has been attracted to.
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